Loss of a loved one is something that people handle differently. There is no right or wrong way to grieve. This post is about shifting your perspective in order help you move on a little bit more gracefully.
This past week was rough for me. Today, marks a year since my grandmother passed. As the days grew near, I found my heart beginning to fill with bitterness, anger, and pain. Thinking about her death was bringing me to a dark place. Once I got to this point, it was imperative for me to sort through these emotions.
Dealing with death is hard. Undoubtedly, it’s the hardest thing we are faced with in life. It is something that hits home for all of us.
Death brings on unexplainable emotions. For many, of us these emotions are nostalgic from the loss of other loved ones. We think we’ve gotten over their death, when in actuality we’re bottling up the pain.
Holding on to pain and hurt is easy. Releasing and learning to manage pain is where true freedom comes from. But, like anything worth having, it takes work.
Rather than being bound to negative emotions, seek love and fight for your happiness.
Easier said than done, right? Trust me I know.
Honestly, I wanted to be angry and bitter about losing my grandmother. Being angry is a scapegoat. It gives you an excuse to not be held accountable for your actions. Not being held accountable for your actions, is where problems can arise. This is why fostering these emotions can be detrimental. It will begin to rub off on the people around you. This will create a perpetual cycle of hurt. Before you know it being ‘in your feelings” will control your actions and thoughts. You will end up talking yourself into darkness.
Your feelings don’t know your future. So, why let them control you and tell you how to live? Be honest with yourself and take control your life. Life goes on and happiness is still attainable even after death. This is principle is one of the hardest concepts to grasp. The fact that life will go on without your loved one is bittersweet. You want to be happy, but by the same token you want your loved one to live on.
There is a way to achieve this balance. Choose joy!
You will get through this and come out fully functioning.
Although, your loved has made their transition, think of everything you have to live for. Think about everything good that has come into your life since they’ve passed and filled that void with love.
For me, being blessed with ,not only one, but two children has given me a reason to live and love life. Yes, I miss my grandmother dearly, but I know she wants me to live out her legacy. At times, it hurts but I can think of more happy times to come.
If you are having a hard time dealing with the death, find a way to live. Be intentional on choosing happiness. Celebrate the good things in your life. Your loved one can live on through your actions and in your heart.
You have strength like no other! Hang in there beloved.